What separates the two? Is it that one has more talent or intelligence? No, it’s because they have mental toughness, and this makes a bigger impact than any other quality.
Mental toughness is either obtained from circumstances, or by learning it, which is good news.
While you can’t do much about lack of talent or intelligence, you can develop inner strength.
James Clear confirms this by saying, “In every area of life — from your education to your work to your health — it is your amount of grit, mental toughness, and perseverance that predicts your level of success more than any other factor we can find.”
But…how does a person get mental toughness? Let’s get into it:
Those who get what they want, practice consistency.
The single most important element to success for them is training regularly, and to a schedule. This in turn produces grit, so while the rest of us may shy away from rain, they’ll be out there, training in the rain if they must, but train they will.
Those who work in their own businesses, are consistent in delivering services and despite having the TV right next door to their home office, they have developed a consistent routine that keeps them disciplined to do what must be done.
Mental toughness is produced by developing habits, and habits are started by consistency. The trick to breaking and creating new habits, is to focus on small behaviours, not epic ones. If you would have quit before the tenth rep, quit after the 11th one.
Drew Shamrock said: “You can’t become committed or consistent with a weak mind. How many workouts have you missed because your mind, not your body, told you you were tired? How many reps have you missed out on because your mind said, “Nine reps is enough. Don’t worry about the tenth.” Probably thousands for most people, including myself. And 99% are due to weakness of the mind, not the body.”
When you stick to the schedule instead of obsessing about the end result, you’ll reap the rewards. If you fail, simply get up and reboot without making a “thing” of it.
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Most of us treat others with more respect than we treat ourselves.
If we were to talk to a loved one as we do ourselves, our words would wound and scar.
Imagine that. Imagine treating others as you do yourself. Imagine the long-term effects of such verbal abuse!
When you think about it like that, it’s no wonder you don’t believe in yourself or your abilities; because you are constantly being told how bad you are!
Start being kinder to yourself. Seriously, even the Bible doesn’t say, “be kinder to others than you are to yourself”. Instead, it says, “love your neighbour as you love yourself” (because you’re supposed to love yourself, so that you can show your neighbour as much love as you do yourself)…just saying.
Grit comes via circumstances, but if you are someone who would like to develop more, the good news is that it can be learned, by consistency and positive self-talk.