Believe it or not, some people are addicted to sadness. But the majority of us don’t relish the decline to Sorrow-Town.
Of course, none of us can live blemish-free lives; we need the good as well as the bad, the yin and the yang.
But when hardship hits, it’s possible to be optimistic in spite of it. Here are six potent, life changing ideas:
1: Decide To Be Optimistic
If it sounds too hard, try enabling yourself with motivation by reading stories of other people who have gone through painful circumstances and endured, or watch an inspiring movie.
Often, after being exposed to inspiration in this way, we are able to make the choice to be happy, even through the pain. You may need to do it more than once, and that is OK.
2: Disrupt Your Thought Process
You can be optimistic and content in the midst of suffering, so long as you filter your thoughts. Because oftentimes, spiraling down into depression starts with one thought. Then another. And another, each one becoming darker and darker until you find yourself in a pit of despair.
Change your thoughts by having a chat with yourself, your other self bringing clarity and realism to the situation.
Let’s say you’ve been overweight for years and you’re feeling despondent, even though you’re gyming and eating healthy foods. Conduct a self dialogue along the lines of, “don’t feel bad. If you were not doing anything about it, that would be a different story, but you are exercising and you’ve already changed the way you eat. That is cause for celebration. The weight will come off in time. Just be patient with yourself”.
3: Be Thankful For The Good
Finding things to be thankful for is a powerful way to be more optimistic, because when we’re in a funk, we tend to focus on all that is bad.
Make a list of at least 10 things you’re thankful for. Keep going until something clicks and your mood lifts.
4: Divert Your Focus
When you’ve been brewing in your own sad-stew for a while, chances are you’re only going to become more and more down. To avoid hitting the concrete, turn your attention to something else. You may want to watch a funny movie (avoid movies that are too deep or dramatic), or go volunteer at an animal shelter.
Do anything that demands your attention to turn from your hardship and it’s emotions, to something completely unrelated.
5: Remember The Bad is Temporary
This too shall pass. Say that as often as it helps. This too shall pass. Believe that it will indeed.
There are seasons in all our lives. If we didn’t experience sorrow, we would not know how good happiness feels. If we didn’t experience financial difficulty, we wouldn’t have the satisfaction of achieving a goal that helps us enjoy financial freedom. And so on.
None of us can always be happy. And the sorrow and pain does not last forever.
6: Watch What You Eat
When your body doesn’t get the the vitamins and minerals it needs to function well, this can affect your mood. For instance, your body needs folate, which is found in liver, green
vegetables, citrus fruits, beans and fortified foods like marmite or cereals.
When it doesn’t get folate from what you’re eating, you have an increased risk of feeling depressed.
Pauline Durham tells her story of being diagnosed as a Diabetic, and because she didn’t like how being a Diabetic made her feel, she decided to change her situation just by changing the foods she was consuming.
Nowadays, she lives free from Diabetes and her quality of life has improved substantially.
What should you be eating to improve your mood and to be more optimistic? Most modern diets consist of too many foods that are acid forming in the body, leading to disease and mood upheaval, so start by understanding what foods are necessary to the body and which are not beneficial.
If you want to be more optimistic in the face of hardship, remember these six tips:
- Make the choice to be content
- Change the way you’re thinking
- Focus on what you’re grateful for
- Change your focus to something unrelated
- Remind yourself that the situation is temporary
- Make your diet nutrient dense